For some reason I am very aware today that I am someones wife...and by extension that means someone is my husband.
Being a wife comes with lots of responsibilities which I have not yet really had to deal with. Right now my main responsibility is to go grocery shopping and keep the house clean. And lets be honest, I have not done either of those things particularly well.
However, Spencer is a rock star at being a husband. He goes to work all day, exercises most days, and when he gets home and I have done nothing but watch Netflix all day he asks me what he can do for me. He is also always apologizing for not doing more around the house. So I guess I am sorry for the rest of you wives because my husband is knocking it out of the park.
I am coming to learn that being a wife is a lot more than just housework. (Or sharing the household responsibilities with your husband because we are modern women who can do what they want). It is mostly about being there to support your husband when he needs you.
It is also about being connected to a person. I don't think I fully realized how much marriage has changed me until I went to Africa. There was one night when I was texting with Spencer and I had just told him that we had walked to a restaurant in the dark and that probably wasn't the safest thing to do and right after I sent that text the power went out. Which means the wifi stopped working so I couldn't contact him and tell him I was ok. The power didn't come back on for hours and I was having a serious meltdown. I was so worried that he was at home freaking out and imagining all of the horrible things that could be happening to me. I felt so horrible for possibly causing him stress and anxiety. I have never felt that much concern for another person in my whole life.
I don't think that concern came just because I care about Spencer and love him. I think it comes from our marriage. I believe that our marriage has bonded us in such a way that we are able to feel more deeply for another person than we could ever imagine.
So today I am particularly grateful for my marriage and for the wonderful man I married. I have quickly come to realize that this marriage is the most important thing I will ever have in my life and I need to treat it with respect. So today I am going to try to be a little bit of a better wife than I was yesterday because it is the most important role I will ever play.